50 steps towards a great marriage

Copied this from a friend who is getting married this year too ^^

Sometimes we forget to treasure person the closest to us. #Check the thing that I have been doing or trying to do.
In red I hope the things that I can learn to do.

1. Start each day with a kiss. #Check
2. Wear your wedding ring at all times.
3. Date once a week. #Check
4. Accept differences. #Check
5. Be polite.#Check
6. Be gentle.#Check
7. Give gifts. #Check
8. Smile often. #Check
9. Touch. #Check
10. Talk about dreams.#Check
11. Select a song that can be "our song".#Check
12. Give back rubs.#Check
13. Laugh together. #Check
14. Send a card for no reason.
15. Do what the other person wants before he or she asks.#Check
16. Listen. #Check
17. Encourage. #Check
18. Do it his or her way. #Check
19. Know his or her needs.#Check
20. Fix the other person's breakfast.#Check
21. Compliment twice a day.
22. Call during the day. #Check
23. Slow down.
24. Hold hands.#Check
25. Cuddle.#Check
26. Ask for each other's opinion. #Check
27. Show respect.#Check
28. Welcome the other person home. #Check
29. Look your best.
30. Wink at each other.
31. Celebrate birthdays in a big way.
32. Apologize. #Check
33. Forgive. #Check
34. Set up a romantic getaway.#Check
35. Ask, "What can I do to make you happier?".
36. Be positive.
37. Be kind.#Check
38. Be vulnerable.
39. Respond quickly to the other person's request. #Check
40. Talk about your love. #Check
41. Reminisce about your favorite times together. #Check
42. Treat each other's friends and relatives with courtesy. #Check
43. Send flowers every Valentine's day and anniversary.
44. Admit when wrong. #Check
45. Be sensitive to each other's sexual desires.#Check
46. Pray for each other daily.
47. Watch sunsets together.#Check
48. Say "I love you" frequently.#Check
49. End the day with a hug.#Check
50. Seek outside help when needed. #Check

God is teaching me...about people

Something that he and me have in common is that we are actually a very stiff person. In our wedding preparation course, there were 42 couples. But we didn't make any friends. We looked around, we saw some nice couples, but we didn't speak to any of them.

Yesterday in a wedding party, we saw this couple that we met during the course. So, we were nervously telling each other why not we tried to approach them and perhaps we can share with each other about wedding preparation. Finally, 1o mins later, we walked closer to them to say "Hi". And i know it sounded stupid when I started the conversation with, "Hey do u remember us? we met at the course, you picked up my tissue when I dropped it on the floor while we were eating that chicken lunch".

Ooops, she laughed @ me for remembering her that way.

Speaking about families, I think I am a lousy daughter & sister. Why? Because I don't put enough effort to be close to my families. Buying them things trying to repair the lost is not enough and I just realized it now.

For the past 10 years, my siblings only see me less than 2 weeks in a year. That's why I shouldn't blame them for not being understanding with me sometimes. Because I don't give them a chance to spend time with me and that's totally my fault. I don't even know what specific things that my sister or my brother likes.

And now, I began to know his families more than my own families only when I spent more time with them.

That sounds kind of pathetic. It is even sadder when thinking about it, I am not actually "sure" what my mom and dad likes.

Come to think of it, I couldn't turn back the time. But if I could, do something to ammend in the future, I would wish to go home more often after I am married (Not the other way around)

I am going to be 30 years old soon. That's pretty scary....

Wedding update

We got our wedding band last weekend and to our surprise, they don't fit on our fingers anymore. Both of us had put on weights in a month :(. I am making him putting on weight, coz' i want him to look bigger. And his mom is making me putting on weight, coz' she wants me to look prettier.

Oh btw,..we had promised each other to go to Gym every weekend for half an hour of exercising. We seriously need to move our body more..before we get too old to fix everything.

We had also seen our indoor-pre wedding photos. They were nice, especially those in japanese outfit. But we sort of being cheated by the bridal to add additional 2jt to get more photos for our album :(.

And..wedding in medan, there are still alot of things to settle. I have booked to view Grand Angkasa and Aryaduta for our wedding in Medan :) Will see the place when I go back for chinese new year.

I will spend 3 nites in medan for this Chinese New Year. It will be sort of my last chinese new year eve dinner with my family. Initially my mom wants to cook for us at home, coz it will be only 4 of us. It's hard to book a table in a restaurant or hotel. Aniway, they are thinking about money (it will be very expensive). But I decided to bring them to Mariott Hotel. I know that treat is nothing compare to those money they had spent on me when they brought me up, and also the money that they will give me for my wedding. So..i insisted to go ahead with this.

Next friday, I will be home! :D

PS. I am getting tired...it's a good feeling to go through all this, but I also hope it can be over soon.

New Year Pre-wed Photo Shoot

^^ My new look in 2009 ^^

1st Jan 2009, we woke up at 9am. We packed our things, and then we went to MKG to have lunch at..PIZZA HUT. Didn't manage to eat my favorite chicken wings but I still like the pizza.

We bought a dozen of JCo Donut for the crews in my bridal studio and we reached there at 12pm. They started to put make up on me and styled my hair. There were 4 dresses that I wore during the photo shoot, and I could actually change my hair style 4 x too!.

It feels so so good to be very pretty, wearing gowns (include wedding gowns) and take pre-wed photos. It was a different feeling than our photoshoot in Bali. I actually asked my mom why 'we didn't seem to feel excited. He didn't look excited too during our Bali photos'. My mom said, when you took your real wedding photos in the studio with that gowns and proper make up, everything will feel magically different. She is right!

The boss of the bridal actually bought us 2 packets of Eaton meals. We hope..our prewedding photos will turn out good.